[Beauty] Tumbleweed

Ladies, can we talk about something important for a minute?

This.

Frizz.

I can't take it any more. I have spent years and years trying to find the right product or combination of products so that my hair will not look like this. I have lovely curls that will not air-dry (or diffuser dry) defined and sleek. I either end up with a curly version of this, or crusty curls, which is an equally ugly yet totally different issue.

Now, for straight hair, I can go from the above to this, simply by using a flat iron:

But the problem arises when I want to wear my hair curly. Air drying = frizz. Diffuser = frizz. I've tried products, but 9 times out of 10 product = crunchy curls or wet looking curls, both nasty.

Curly haired girls....frizzy haired girls....HELP! What product/combination of products work for you??